I have been contemplating the words: want versus need in my life. I go to the obvious, I need food, water, air, some type of shelter. These are real needs. And, when I look at what I want in this life, I want love, family, travel, dessert, a log cabin…
When I dig deep in the want and the need, I see where there is choice. There is always choice in the want. I want to have a boyfriend, I want to own a dog, I want those new pair of TOMS…. If you were to ever ask if these were a need, the answer would be ‘no’.
What? You don’t need your boyfriend? You don’t love him?
Now, wait. I did not say that.
When it comes to love, I never want to feel stuck, obligated and/or pigeon-holed. I wake up every morning in choice and know that I choose with everything I have, to love my man, every single day. I choose to walk the dog and pick up his poop in green, scented bags, every single day. Because I want this life. I choose this life, today.
When the boyfriend, the dog or some material item become a need, I am no longer in choice. I have given up all control over decision-making, how I feel in each moment and what is possible today, now, or tomorrow.
Do you feel me on this?
It is a shift in language. It is a shift in thinking. It is shift in how you rock your life.
What do you really want? Make it a choice. Every single day.